Very interesting article about the chemical process of love. That it isn’t an elusive perfection that is shown in movies but it is the small, daily moments between people who find a special connection between each other, as cheesy as it sounds. It can be the morning kiss between a husband and wife or it can be the short conversation with the barista at Starbucks.
” Like all emotions, love has a biochemical and physiological component. But unlike some of the other positive emotions, like joy or happiness, love cannot be kindled individually—it only exists in the physical connection between two people. Specifically, there are three players in the biological love system—mirror neurons, oxytocin, and vagal tone. Each involves connection and each contributes to those micro-moment of positivity resonance that Fredrickson calls love.”
Mirror Neurons: You’re literally on the same brain frequency with the person who you’re finding a connection with. Studies show that your brain waves mirror the other person, and can sometimes anticipate brain activity.
“The mutual understanding and shared emotions, generated a micro-moment of love, which is a single act, performed by two brains”
Oxytocin(The love chemical): A small act of love between mother and infant for instance such as smiling, hugging, or eye contact, shows a rise in oxytocin in both of them.
Vagal Nerve(The Potential to Love- measureable) : The capacity of love isn’t static. The grow one’s ability to love more is done merely by stepping back and be less self centered and realize other peoples place in the world.
“Since vagal tone mediates social connections and bonds, people whose vagal tones increased were suddenly capable of experiencing more micro-moments of love in their days. Beyond that, their growing capacity to love more will translate into health benefits given that high vagal tone is associated with lowered risk of inflammation, cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and stroke.”
I definitely urge you to read the article. It was eye opening. To me, this answers the age old question of what love is.